While there are few children who can perform even in negative situations, most if not all children would appreciate a safe and secure environment for them to learn. The environment should be predictive, positive and clean where everything has its place with clear rules, order and discipline. There should be no bullies threatening the children in school.  The children should be able to feedback any fears and concerns to the authorities easily and expect the adults to remove their fears quickly. If possible, there should be very little changes in staff and personnel where the teachers loved their work and projects a lot of goodwill, smiles and laughters.

Quality times are given to sing, talk, tell, explain and express each person’s desire, hopes and stories. Children are taught to appreciate others by cheering and clapping.  Help the children to build friendship by putting them into small teams. Give counsel to the ones who didn’t know how to share and serve others. Teaching subjects and contents are only a small part of education for younger children. Learning to love oneself and others are very important for future success in life.

Parents and teachers alike can affirm the child for his or her positive actions and goodwill towards others. Flattery about natural beauty or family wealth are strictly discouraged. Instead praise the child for respecting others and showing kindness as well as obedience to authority. Disobedience acts are quickly identified and corrected. Teach the child to say “Sorry” in a proper manner and also how to forgive others in a proper manner. In our past experience of working with children, it is not unusual to find children who were not taught and have never learnt to say sorry properly or graciously forgive others for their wrongs. Instead they would strike back as their angers build up.

Parents and teachers should try not to punish or if required, to explain the severity of the infractions to the child. Parents and teachers should likewise be quick to forgive and forget wrongdoings expecting that the child will repeat the mistakes again and again until he or she matures and wish not to repeat them again. Very few children will stop doing wrong deeds henceforth after they had been corrected or punished. Children are children and they need time to learn and progress.

Teach the children how to express love using the 5 languages of love identified by Gary Chapman. Encourage children to do acts of services, give gifts, cheer, affirm and celebrate successes are part of the wholesome environment for personal maturation and emotional stability and to help them learn to build positive team dynamics with others.

Encourage the child to do hard or tedious things to build up perseverance and resilience.  Success comes from not giving up. This has to be taught as early as possible.

To further enhance emotional stability and calmness, the environment should have proper color co-ordinated and furnished tastefully. Researchers has found that having classical or baroque music playing in the background also create an orderliness to stimulate learning. Classical and baroque music are well know for their orderly projections to calm the human mind and allow the person to focus and concentrate fully on the task at hand.

With a strong, emotionally stable child who is also self-affirmed and has many friends and has the character of resilience and perseverance, there is very little that child cannot achieve in life. .